20 lessons I learnt this summer

It’s been a while. I really fell out of the swing of things but hopefully, I can get myself back on track and get back into this blog because I adore everything about it so here I am, back again!

So, last month I turned 20. I am not happy with this as it makes me a real adult and I am not emotionally prepared for that level of responsibility but hey-ho. But it did get me thinking about all the lessons I have learnt over the summer that I will take into my 20s with me and never forget.

  1. That there is nothing in this world that’s worth losing your best friend over. (Just stop being a dick).
  2. That if you talk about your best friend too much at family functions your aunties will start a conspiracy about your sexuality.
  3. Sometimes you can meet someone at the wrong time and then again at the right time. I recently started talking to an old friend and I think it’s fair to say that we weren’t that great the first time around but now seeing how much we’ve both grown and matured shows that sometimes you just gotta wait and find each other again.
  4. That it’s ok to slow down and take some time off to just sit and do nothing for a while.
  5. That the unplanned nights out are lethal and will write you off for at least a week.
  6. Just because you CAN drink for 24 hours doesn’t mean that you should.
  7. Sometimes you just have to say “fuck it” and take a risk or make a plan you’re too scared to make. I am going to see Dear Evan Hansen in London next year because we finally said “fuck it” and booked it.
  8. I learnt that you can’t help everyone. This one is really hard for me as I love to help people or try and fix all their problems but sometimes that’s just not possible and it’s sad but that’s just life.
  9. That you can’t let the past define your present or your future, you can’t spend life looking back over your shoulder because you’ll just miss out on the better and bigger things that are waiting for you.
  10. That it’s never too late to get to know someone, there’s always something new.
  11. That going off the rails is not a healthy coping mechanism, also is there a science behind why wine hangovers are so much worse than normal hangovers.
  12. That honesty is always the best policy whether that be in your job, to yourself or anyone in your life.
  13. That you can’t always be liked by people. Some people are just too different and that’s fine and not everyone is going to like you or your personality.
  14. That getting the help you need is so important and knowing when you need help is so important. There is no shame in admitting that you are struggling.
  15. You have to give as much as you get in this life.
  16. Support your friends and their dreams until the very end! 
  17. Olives aren’t that bad and at the grand old age of 20, I need to start trying new food because I don’t think you can survive off of crisp sandwiches.
  18. That you don’t always have to get blackout drunk on a night out, you can go home before 6 am and still have a good night!
  19. A night out with my cousins is probably the most fun! Irish dancing and shots till 1 am and then lying to your aunties about how much you drank in the morning even though you are all adults!
  20. Get more pictures. I got a disposable camera for my 20th and take a million and one photos on nights out. There’s just something about going back through them and cringing, crying or laughing at them all.

What are somethings that you’ve learnt this summer? I would love to read them in the comments! Thank you for being so patient whilst I took some time off but I’m back into this and have a lot more posts planned out. I hope you’ve all had an amazing summer and that 2019 continues being your best year!

 

Summer 2019

Hi everyone,
I am so sorry about the lack of posts recently, recently I’ve been going through a bit of a slump mentally and with my writing, but I am back! I cannot wait to get back into posting and talking to you guys!
So as most of you know from my previous blog “I can’t wait for summer” Summer is my favourite time of the year and now that it’s officially summer I thought I would talk to you about my plans for summer 2019. I started my summer by getting my nose pierced and dying my hair bright yellow which is the peak of readiness for me.
So this summer I turn 20 which means other than crying over the fact that I’ll be a “real” adult I will be having a party and by party I mean a small group of us are going to sit in and drink gin and cheap wine like the true introverts we are. I spent May going out a lot more which has led to a few questionable decisions like walking home at 6:30 am, rocking up back home at 9 am and drinking a full bottle of wine in the space of an hour and spending the next day with my head in the toilet. I have learnt that the nights out that you don’t plan are the ones that end up being the best ones and the ones where you end up in the worst states! But here’s to many more of these nights and the lack of memories that come with them!
I will also be travelling to Edinburgh and Dunbar to visit my family, whilst there I will be going to enjoy the Edinburgh Festival, this is something I have been doing for years since my family live there, it’s always a really interesting time walking around and checking out the street artists and supporting local businesses, this year I will be going to my first show at the festival which should be amazing! If you ever have the chance to go to the festival you really should as it’s such an amazing experience and Edinburgh is so beautiful. The Edinburgh Dungeons is a personal favourite of mine and something everyone should do as it’s hilarious especially if you take someone who is quite jumpy.
I am also hopefully going to be doing a bit of travelling with my friends, this isn’t something I have ever done before, the last time I went abroad was when I was still in high school which was about 5 years ago so this is something I am 100% looking forward to. Thailand is somewhere that I would absolutely love to go, a lot of my family have lived there and travelled there so I’m hopefully going out there this year! Is there anywhere specific we should look into going to? Would love to hear about your travels and your stories! This summer I am really wanting to step out of my comfort zone and try new things and see new places without worrying.
Apologies again for the late upload, I will be posting regularly again from now on. As always, make this year your best one yet.

My favourite poetry book


Hello again! I’m sorry it’s been a while, I’ve spent the last month editing and polishing up my final university short story, I may post it on the blog if it’s something anyone would be interested in reading. My posts should go back to being regular from this week on.
Today I wanted to talk about the “Women are some kind of magic” series created by author Amanda Lovelace, I first discovered Amanda’s writing on Instagram and after reading a few poems from her first book “The Princess saves herself in this one” about 18 months ago I just knew I had to go and buy it. I now have all three books from the series and they have all caught my heart in totally different ways, they all have many dogeared pages and I find myself constantly going back to them whenever I’m sad and need picking up as well as constantly recommending them to friends.

I wanted to talk about this series as I bought the last book “The mermaid’s voice returns in this one” in the collection yesterday and wasn’t able to put it down, it has quickly become one of my firm favourites. All of Amanda’s books cover a wide range of topics from Feminism to Abuse, every poem is from the heart and it’s made very clear to the reader that Lovelace really cares about these topics and they are things she wants to raise awareness of. What I love about this series is that it is clearly inspiring, it can help people see that they are not alone in their situations and even validate feelings that they don’t realise other people also go through. These books have helped me on my rainiest of days, making me feel better as well as not alone, they are incredibly empowering and I cannot suggest them highly enough to anyone struggling as they are the perfect pick-me-up. Something i really enjoy about Amanda’s writing is how she writes her poems, that they take all shapes and sizes yet it doesn’t take away from the content of the poem if anything this adds to it, making the reader search a little deeper for the meaning. something else that i adore about her writing is that although it’s simple and straight to the point it’s still incredibly powerful which for me personally is how I prefer poetry to be but she has nailed that line completely.

I won’t go into detail or share any of the poems as I feel that you should go check out Amanda on her social media (links below) because I don’t want to take away any of the magic that comes from sitting down and reading them in their entirety. Every single poem was written is designed to help people and that’s exactly what they do and I have the most utmost respect for Amanda for talking about such hard issues such as sexual assault and child abuse as well as including a trigger warning at the start of the books to help her readers, this isn’t something you see in many books.
I have never been one for writing poetry but Amanda has inspired me to give it a go and I think that everyone who has the chance should go and read this series! If you already have please let me know in the comments below what you thought and share your favourite poems or poets! I would love to talk with you about them and read any of your suggestions.

Thank you for reading and as always, I hope this year is your year!

Amanda’s Social;
Instagram; Ladybookmad
Twitter; @ladybookmad

My March

My apologies for being a week late with this post, I have just been swamped with uni work and a very impromptu decorating project. Before I start on my post I would like to say thank you to all for 100 likes on my blog, those small victories honestly make my day and give me all the motivation I need to continue with my tiny blog! So thank you!

So, what’s happened in the last few weeks, well, I finished therapy. 10 weeks ago I started CBT therapy to help me with my anxiety, now I am going to make an entire blog post dedicated to this but for now, let me just say; it is completely worth it. I feel the calmest I have felt in years, I feel like I can actually handle situations in a rational way and get through my days quicker because I’m not spending so much time in my own head stressing myself out. I will be writing a full post on this and what the individual’s sessions were like for me!

I started decorating my room! This is such a huge deal for anyone that knows me. My room had 2 black walls and 2 blue walls, the black was because my lil emo heart thought it would be so cool (it wasn’t) and the blue walls were due to me never actually buying white paint because I am the queen of procrastination. My twin and I have spent the last week stripping all the wallpaper in preparation. Something I learnt about myself during this is that I may be a slight hoarder, here are a few things I found under my bed whilst cleaning;

  1. A 5-year-old empty bottle of Malibu rum from when my friend and I were drinking in my bedroom and I was too scared to move the bottle and just forgot.
  2. School work from high school (I left in 2015).
  3. A permission slip from high school that I never handed in, again I left 4 years ago.
  4. An ex-boyfriend’s hoodie. I’ve not spoken to him for 6 years.

So yeah, I have a slight problem. Or I just need to start being more organised. I also have a mural on my wall from the previous owners which is supposed to be nursery rhymes but honestly, it looks like the souls of their enemies are trapped within. I have inserted a picture of the creepy wall because everyone needs to see it, people have very mixed feelings on the wall so please let know what you think!

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I have finished all my university work bar one project and I am so proud of this because last year I was in such a tough place that it honestly felt impossible, this has helped me see how much I’ve grown because sometimes I forget and get mad thinking that nothing has changed! So here’s to hoping I got it this time around. I love the university and the course I am doing but it is such a weight off my shoulders to be at this point! This month has been my most productive one so far and I really hope the rest of my year is this way because I feel like I am really getting places!

How has your month been? Let me know in the comments, I love talking to you all and hearing about what’s going on with you. Thank you for reading and as always, I hope this year is your year!

Simple Self Care Ideas

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I absolutely love self-care, I am such a big believer in taking time for yourself to just feel your feelings and figure things out. Anyone that knows me will know I use any excuse to self-care and treat myself, which I personally blame Parks and Recreations for.

Here are some of my favourite self-care tips for when I’m feeling down that are super simple and everyone can do;

  1. Take a bath. Go run yourself the hottest, bubbliest bath ever, use your favourite bath bomb, out in your favourite playlist and just ignore the world for a while. 
  2. Read your favourite book again, I must have read Watching Edie over a hundred times at this point but there’s something about getting lost in your favourite book that just makes everything a little better. 
  3. FACEMASKS. Whether you buy them or DIY them facemasks are a staple in all self-care and my best friend and I swear by them when we are feeling down. 
  4. Do your favourite makeup look or wear your favourite outfit, spend the day feeling like your best self, there is no such thing as overdressed to go shopping, go big or go home! 
  5. Have a nap or have an early night, honestly, sometimes you just need to sleep it off and start a new day with a clean slate. 
  6. Call your bestie and talk about everything and nothing, there is no problem that a phone call to your best friend cannot fix. Sometimes it’s better to talk it out even if it seems trivial because there is nothing wrong with feeling your feelings even if you are slightly dramatic. 
  7. Turn off negative social media, block people, get rid of those toxic people. There is nothing wrong with getting rid of people or things that don’t impact positively on your life, there is a difference between constructive criticism and nastiness. 
  8. Rewatch your favourite movie or favourite show, go back and enjoy those moments that take you away for a while. Cry at the same scene or episode for the 10th time!

This next piece of advice is for anyone that needs to hear it; DO NOT CUT YOUR HAIR WITH KITCHEN SCISSORS, YOU DON’T REALLY WANT A BOX FRINGE, TAKE A MINUTE AND DON’T DO THAT. Please wait and get it done professionally. 

I hope these ideas help inspire you for the next time you feel a bit down, let me know your favourite self-care activities in the comments, would love to see how you all wind down! Carry on living your best life and I hope this year is your year and always remember, TREAT YO’ SELF, IT’S THE BEST DAY OF THE YEAR!

 

10 facts about me

I started this blog 4 months ago and I realised that none of you guys actually know much about me, I debated writing a post like this since I started my blog but I didn’t know if anyone would even care enough to read but I really want you guys to know a bit about me!

  1. I am only 4’10” tall. Which makes me the shortest in my family.
  2. I have a twin sister, we are not identical and are polar opposite personality wise. I also have 2 older brothers and an older sister.
  3. Gin is the only alcohol that doesn’t make me weepy. Honestly, I am surprised I have any friends left with the number of nights I have ruined.
  4. I genuinely love Nickelback and country music, I will fight you in the comments on this!
  5. I really want kids one day, it’s the one thing in life that I am 100% certain about.
  6. I am the biggest crybaby, I cry at the drop of a hat especially at shows or movies.
  7. I have 2 cats who I’ve had for 12 years, Toffee and Tess. I honestly don’t know if I could own a cat after these 2.
  8. I talk to myself, and I don’t mean randomly as I’m doing jobs I mean like I do it on buses and at work loud enough for people to hear so I look like a crazy person.
  9. I only have 4 friends, quality over quantity guys. I love my friends more than anyone else.
  10. I used to write plays when I was younger and really wanted to be a playwright until I was about 16.

I really want to get to know you guys better so tell me a bit about yourself in the comments!
Also of you want to get to know me even better than you should follow me on twitter @LucyBuckton and on Instagram @x_the_short_one_x

My Top 3 Netflix Series

Just a quick note before I get into the posts; I am going to start posting once every 2 weeks as I feel like this is more realistic for me, so I promise my posting will be 100% more consistent from here on out. Thank you all for reading and commenting on my posts it really makes me feel like I am finding my feet with this and interacting with my readers is an amazing feeling so thank you all again!

Also The artist I Doodle Moole who i mentioned in my last blog post has made my new profile picture so again please so check her out and give her all the love and support in the world! Her handles are;
Twitter: @Doodle_moole
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I am no stranger to binge-watching TV/Netflix series as much as I can, I am very much one of those people who will immediately find a new series to start as soon as my other one ends so that my life continues to have meaning and I have more reasons to procrastinate, so I thought I would share my top 3 series with you all. Please let me know what your favourites are in the comments or if you watch any of the same ones I do.

 

  1. Call the Midwife; So if you aren’t from the UK you may have not have heard of this show. It is a period drama set in a post-war London in the 1950’s/1960’s. It is based on the memoirs of real east end midwife Jenny Worth and recounts the many births she saw in her time. The show deals with very difficult storylines such as girls being forced to get backstreet abortions due to the laws, the rampant racism people of the time faced and even talking about those affected by the morning sickness pill known as Thalidomide. BUT it also deals with things such as the contraceptive pill being invented meaning women could take pregnancy into their own hands, Vaccines being created for measles and you also get to see 1000’s of healthy babies being born throughout the many series. Now I know what you are thinking, why do you love this show so much? Well, I love babies. I am the broodiest 19-year-old girl you will ever meet but I also love seeing what life used to be like and how we have evolved as a society over the years, seeing how much tolerance has grown and how much medicine has advanced. So if you enjoy a good period drama this one is definitely for you and is available on Netflix UK.
  2. Grey’s Anatomy; So it was my sister that got me into this A M A Z I N G show. I saw a few episodes as she watched and started getting emotionally invested so I thought I would give it a chance and I am SO happy I did. Grey’s Anatomy is a hospital drama and follows the different lives of the doctors and surgeons working at Seattle Grace Mercy West. The show is currently on its 15th Season and I hope it continues forever because I have no idea what to do if it was to end. Some reasons that this show is one of my favourites is because it so well is written, it has some amazing quotes and can teach the audience some life lessons as they watch. I have never been more emotionally invested in a set of fictional characters as I am to the doctors on this show you really feel like you have gone on this journey with them and find yourself laughing and crying with them along the way.
  3. Haunting of Hill House; If you have not seen this terrifying Netflix original what are you waiting for?! I am a horror lover so when I heard about this series I knew I just had to give it a go and honestly I am going to re-watch it when I finish writing this post! This series took the internet by storm as it followed the Crain family and their journey of living in Hill House and how it affected them in later lives. Its told using a mix of flashbacks and present day which is done so seamlessly that you will never get confused which some series tend to do. This series keeps you on your toes all the way through with its amazing use of background characters and sets, it also uses tasteful jump scares that are well thought out and aren’t constantly used so that the audience feel uneasy and can’t pay attention to what’s happening. I really cannot talk about this show more highly than I do to everyone I know.

Some honourable mentions would be;
The Good Place and Shameless (US) (Yes I am aware that as a British person this is blasphemy of the highest calibre). These two shows are absolutely amazing and are both available to watch on Netflix but they did not make it into my top 3 but this may change as more season become available!

Thank you for reading and please let me know in the comments if you agree with my choices and let me know what your top 3 are and I may check a few out and tell you if I get as invested as you!