Why change is so important to me

I am a big believer that any change in life, no matter how small can make you feel completely differently about a situation. Change can even provide a new perspective on a situation, it can make you look at it from an outside perspective instead of living within the issue constantly, it gives you a chance to stand back and look at the bigger picture.

Every time a significant event happens in my life I change something about myself, whether it be changing my room around, dying my hair for the millionth time or getting a new tattoo or piercing I make sure I change something to mark the event so that I don’t forget it. These changes serve as a constant reminder of what I have overcome or achieved in my life. When I got into university I got a tattoo of a pinky promise, now that tattoo is not the best (don’t book a tattoo on the spot kids, wait a bit) but every time I look at it I remember how excited I was when I got that confirmation email. Now, not all the changes in my life have been nice changes to make but they have all been nothing but positive in the long run. A few years ago I cut off a very close friend of mine, we are better now but at the time it was the best thing I could have possibly done even though it didn’t seem it at the time, it took me an extremely long time to come to terms with. I have  learnt never regret changes made because a lot of the time those changes needed to be made and without those changes my life would have stayed the same and I would have continued to be miserable. Change is so important because as I’ve said without change everything stays the same and if everything stays the same you can’t move forward with your life. If I had just made some of those decisions sooner things would have been so much different, but the point of this is not to dwell it’s to push you to make those changes that scare you because it may be the best thing you do!

Make the changes you’re scared to make because you never know, those changes may be the ones that put everything into place for you.  You might let go of things you didn’t even think were affecting you. Take the leap and take the path you never saw yourself taking. You should always be your first priority and you should never change yourself or your opinions for the sake of people who aren’t worth it. Don’t ever be afraid to walk away from situations that aren’t right for you, you deserve to be happy so if that certain thing isn’t making you happy then go and find something that does.

 

How I beat writers block

It happens to the best of us, you never know when it’s going to happen but it’s always when you need at least, you know what I’m talking about, right? Yes! The dreaded writer’s block. In my first year of university I suffered from this horrendously when it came to writing my first short stories of the semester, I would have all these inspired ideas but when it came to putting pen to paper I would just go blank. That was until I found a method that helped me with this which is what I’m going to share with you in this post as I thought it could help others.

One of my favourite things about this method is that it works for more than just short stories, it could help you figure out characters and settings for novels, poems and plays. This method is mainly used so that a writer can create a foundation for what they are going to write when they aren’t quite sure yet and it’s from here that you can expand and turn it into whatever you want, you may even end up with something completely different than what you originally wanted to write.

All writers have their own unique way of beating away the writer’s block and this is mine and I call it Story Roulette.  Firstly what you do is create 3 categories which are;

Characters
Emotions
Setting

Secondly you add 6 different characters, 6 different personalities and 6 settings. Finally you then roll a dice or ask someone to pick a number between 1 and 6 whatever the number rolled or chosen is the character, personality and setting for your story. (I suggest you do this twice with characters and emotions so that you can have an antagonist and a protagonist). Then you can create a foundation for your piece from what you are given, now this story may not be your best work and you may edit it a lot as you go but it helps you to get into the mindset of writing and can even prove to be a source of inspiration for your next story.

Here is the list I personally use when using this, I do change it every time I use it but here is my latest one that you could use for a guideline;

Characters;

  1. A runaway girl
  2. A failing business owner
  3. An animal (Any)
  4. Successful CEO with the secret addiction
  5. An everyday boy
  6. A bride on her wedding day 

Emotions;

  1. Regretful
  2. Starstruck
  3. Overjoyed
  4. Content
  5. Depressed
  6. Envious

 

Setting;

  1. A bar
  2. A hotel lift
  3. Their home
  4. Any form of transport
  5. Their place of work
  6. A shop 

If any of you have your own unique way of beating writer’s block I would love to read them in the comments on this post and if anyone uses this for the first time I would love to hear how it worked for you and your feedback or even read what you created from using this method!

My October 2018

The month of October is my favourite for a lot of reasons, the main ones being that it is the spookiest time and the fact that black forest hot chocolates make a comeback (that hot chocolate is possibly one of my favourite things, despite my lactose intolerance saying otherwise). So I thought I would take a look at the last month and talk about what I did and if I learnt anything.

This October I started this blog and it was a long time coming. I kept going on and on about it for months but nothing ever came of it for a million different reasons, the main one being that I completely lacked confidence in my writing. I have to say this blog  is the exact opposite of what I had imagined, for example I wanted an Insta-blog filled with pictures of books and professional reviews, I never thought I would have a WordPress blog where I just talk about me and my unedited feelings and I am so much happier with how that has turned out. The reason I changed my mind was that I realized my heart wouldn’t be in what I was writing, it would have felt like an assignment, something I had to do instead of something I was truly passionate about that had my full attention and feelings invested into it. I have my heart set on this blog and making something of it, even if only 3 people read it I really hope those 3 people enjoy what I write and believe in me as much as I believe in myself.

In addition to the blog writing I was also offered an opportunity to write an article for my university which they published, article writing is another writing medium that I hadn’t ever explored or even thought about and again I am so glad i took the chance and did it because it has given me so much more confidence in my writing ability. So the main theme for my month for taking the leap and exploring new opportunities that are coming my way instead of shying away from them due to my own self doubt, so I have promised myself that every time I doubt myself to look back at this month and remember that I can always do it, even if it doesn’t work out I can still try and learn lessons from it.

I wrapped up the month by spending Halloween dancing and drinking with my best friends, I don’t think I’ve drank that much vodka in years but honestly the nights that you can barely remember make for some of the best memories. It’s the second year in a row I’ve been dancing to thriller at 3am and I honestly wouldn’t change it for the world! I’ve already started planning my costume for next year and it’s less basic than being a black cat and a devil! So here’s to another amazing month, I can’t wait to see what November brings.

 

My favourite books

I have been reading non-stop ever since I’ve had the ability to do so, I absolutely adore that feeling of getting lost in a book to the point where putting it down felt like leaving a movie halfway through and missing the best parts. So I thought I would share some of my favourites with you.

Over the years I have read so many different books with different genres, when I was in primary school I read every single Jacqueline Wilson book I could, including her autobiography. I would read them in a few hours and then spend the rest of the day telling my poor dad in painstaking detail about the plot, the characters and every single detail of the book. The Hetty Feather series was by far my favourite, I reread those books more times than I can count, I took them everywhere with me and told my whole family about them as they sat and nodded along politely. I spent my whole childhood with my head in a book and used to love doing reading comprehension at school because of this and would be proud as punch every time I went up a reading level or my reading age went up.

Through my teen years, I have read many different books but I mainly found myself reading contemporary poetry, such as;

1.Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur

2.The sun and her flowers by Rupi Kaur

3.What I’ve been feeling lately by Alicia Cook

4.The Chaos of longing by K.Y Robinson

All of these books spoke to me in very different ways and I adored them all, they helped me realise what I was feeling was normal and ok sometimes and when I’m going through rough times I think about many poems from these books. I cannot recommend them enough so if you have the chance to read them please do. You will not regret it.

I have found my favourite book of all time and it is without a doubt ‘Watching Edie’ by Camilla Way. I picked up this book after seeing it in Waterstones and thinking “oh this sounds decent” and I cannot tell you how quickly I fell in love with this book. I do not have a bad word to say about it, it’s the best journey I have been on. When reading this book you spend the whole time switching your loyalty between the two main protagonists wondering what’s going to happen next and if you will ever find out what happened “that day”. As soon as I finished this book I told everyone I knew to go out and buy it as it was the best book I had read in a very long time, I have also read the rest of Camilla’s books and in my opinion they all hold up to the same standard of Watching Edie. Watching Edie also came a source of inspiration in my own writing as I loved seeing the different perspective’s of the characters throughout the story as it added to the conflict of who the real victim was.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and it gives you some inspiration for your next read!

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Adult bucket list

I have no idea what to write about.

At all.

It has a been a week of stress and downfalls and a million pointless phone calls that leave you with more to do that when you started. I’ve spent this week planning my future. I’ve very quickly come to realize that you can’t plan the future all you can do is set goals and do your very best to achieve them, I thought I would share my future goals with you;

1.Finish University

2.Get a master’s degree in creative writing

3.Take a gap year and travel and live a nice little cliche life

4.Get a job doing what I love and doing that forever

These four goals are my very grown up, practical goals, an adult life bucket list if you will.

Every person has their own idea of a perfect life but just can’t plan that, as amazing as it would be to have everything go the way you have envisaged maybe it turns out that that’s not how your life will end up. It might turn out that university isn’t your thing or your dream job turns out to be not as dreamy as you thought it would be, it may not sound like it but these realizations give you the chance to start over and discover new goals and ambitions. Something I have come to realize is that you don’t necessarily have to be good at something to love doing it, for example, I failed A-level English and I am now studying English with creative writing at university because I am so passionate about the subject. As long as you have the passion you can do anything, I have met so many people who are studying or working in sectors because they are good at it but  none of them seem to actually enjoy what they are doing and personally I cannot imagine anything worse. Almost everyone I know wants to go into the arts in one form or another and not one of us are prepared to give up our dream, to live our lives as a back-up plan, we are all prepared for the competition and hardships of our sectors but we aren’t giving up because we know that there’s nothing in this world we want more and I think more people should live by this mentality.

 

Why I have started a blog

My name is Lucy and I have wanted to be a writer since I could read, I started writing plays when I was in primary school about anything and everything I could think of, I kept on writing through high school but that was mainly my angst-filled teenaged thoughts and now at 19 I am studying English Literature with Creative writing and have never been happier. Since starting the course I have become obsessed with making my mark in the industry so I thought what better way to do that than starting a blog? So that’s what I’m doing. So welcome to my blog.

In all honesty, I’m not 100% sure on what this blog will consist of, all I know is that taking this leap is the best thing I can do and I have zero plans on regretting it or going back on it. Let me tell you more about my journey into writing; as I said above I have wanted to do this since I could write but in all honesty I am very mediocre at this, I even failed A-level English and that affected my confidence to the point I gave up on my dream and went onto my backup plan. Teaching. I started an apprenticeship at a nursery which I didn’t hate but I spent my entire 6 weeks their feeling like I was missing out, I constantly sat there thinking, “this isn’t what I want to do with my life” so I quit, in all honesty, all they did was teach me how to be an underpaid cleaner more than they did anything else. I then spent the next 6 weeks with my friends not really thinking about what I was going to do next. Towards the end of summer I decided to start looking at university courses and I immediately fell in love with course I am currently studying, the modules stood out to me and just the thought of doing it and studying what I loved made me so happy that I applied through clearing about a month before I was supposed to start (with some help from my friends who constantly checked my personal statement to make sure I got to pursue my dream) and I have never regretted acting on that impulse and I know I won’t regret acting on this one.